Not wanting to move is normal. Leaving behind everything that’s familiar is always difficult. The key is to remember that you’re not alone and that what you’re feeling is normal, too.
Here are a few tips to help making moving a little easier…
- Ask Questions – get to know from your parents the reasons behind the move; ask if you can pick your new school. Find out anything that may help you understand the move better and make you feel like you are having an input too. This will help you feel more in control of the situation too.
- Talk about the move – Anything positive and negative, your worries, fears and maybe some excitement too. Do not bottle it up. Talk about how you are feeling and ask for advice from your parents, teachers and friends. Remember, people care about you and want to know what you are thinking.
- Research & Explore your new neighbourhood before you move there. Try a new restaurant in the area, hang out in the mall or go to a park. Let the parents and teens do this together so it becomes more familiar and comfortable. Also, go check out the new school; see if you can even get a tour.
- Build on your relationship with your family – your parents want the best for you and would not move if it wasn’t in the best interest of the family. You may feel confused or angry, but talk to them about it. You will need each other more in the new surroundings. This move can bring you closer together.
- Keep up with old friends, but be open to new ones – yes, sure it isn’t easy, but it is going to be OK… you will get through this. Arrange a return trip with your parents to see your old friends and keep the relationships you already have. You are adding more friends, not replacing anyone!
- Pack up your own room – this will give you a real sense of being involved and having a say of what goes with you, what you can get rid of, plus you can settle easier by unpacking in your new room yourself.
- Allow yourself time to say goodbye – Have a going away party of a fun night out with your friends. Spend a day with your best friend doing the stuff you love. Take lots of pictures, exchange an article of clothing and make definite plans to stay in touch.
- Try to see the move like trying on a new outfit – you may not be sure about it at first glance, but when you try it on it can look surprisingly good. If you give it a chance, you may like it – so try it on!
- Take your time – adjusting to a move is not easy, but it will happen. It will also provide practice for other life transitions and teach you coping skills to apply to other life events. The most important thing to keep in mind in making a life transition is our relationship with others and using this opportunity to grow closer together.